Betrayal of Friendship
The worst friend a person can have is a Christian who justifies him or her in their sin and rebellion. Many people react to sin as if it is a moral issue only, which is not true. We should be ready to tell our sinner friends that the wages of sin is death. As long as death reigns over a person, he is a slave to sin.
If we refuse to be honest with the sinner about his problems, we shut the door of salvation in his face. But when we lie to our sinner friends or family, we do worse, we deliberately camouflage the door so that it is not visible to them. Our motive for the deception is usually selfishness; we care more about our friends accepting us than we care about their separation from Life.
Yasha said we should let our light so shine so that others may see. Another way to say this is “Be the truth you see and teach.” Your words must match your convictions and expressions if you desire to be a light to those in darkness.
We are not setting a Christian standard if we pretend to accept obvious sin in others’ lives to keep them from being uncomfortable around us. If we hold our relationship with man to be more important than our relationship with Yahweh, we are in darkness because we are not allowing our light to shine. There is no need to nit-pick or condemn others unnecessarily. For instance, our friend might confess that he or she is not sure they are a Christian. Be honest; tell them they need to have an experience that will thoroughly convince them that they are a Christian. If you doubt your salvation, you definitely lack an experience that is available to you. If you think, act, and talk like the rest of the world, you are one of them. This is truth that needs to be understood by the unconverted person.
I remember a lady coming to me in the church and confessing that she had always thought she was a Christian, but that she did not have an experience like I had. She said, “Your experience has changed you. You are different than I am. I have never had that kind of an experience.”
A religious woman was standing near by and was listing to the lady’s confession and immediately interrupted her in the way of a rebuke. She told her she should never belittle her salvation or compare it with another person’s experience. She was not comparing in the spirit that the woman accused her of, but had made a simple statement that she had become aware of her lack and that something greater was being made available to her. I was unable to help the lady because the woman quickly whisked her away and refused to allow us to finish our conversation. The, would be, repentant lady continued to live a defeated, miserable, religious life and died without her release.